In today’s fast-paced world, discussions about mental health are more crucial than ever. However, when it comes to men and mental wellness, the conversation often stalls. Many men still struggle to open up about their mental health issues, hindered by societal expectations and internalized beliefs. In this article, I explore the critical need for men to break the silence and seek support in their mental health journey.
A Kenya National Bureau of Statistics (KNBS) report released in November 2023 showed that more Kenyan men than women have mental disorders.
The Hidden Struggles of Men’s Mental Health
It’s a scenario many are familiar with: someone asks how you’re doing, and you respond with a quick “I’m okay,” even when you’re not. While this response is common, it regularly hides deeper struggles, particularly for men. Men are less likely to reach out to friends or family when feeling stressed or anxious, leading to a build up of unaddressed emotional turmoil.
This reluctance to speak up is deeply rooted in the concept of toxic masculinity. From a young age, boys are often taught to suppress their emotions, to “man up” and not show vulnerability. This mindset carries into adulthood, where men feel pressured to maintain a stoic facade, even when they are overwhelmed.
The pressures of a demanding career, coupled with the challenges of young adulthood, can become too much to bear. Despite the severity of men’s feelings, we typically hesitate to seek help, thinking we might be the problem.
These experiences are not unique. Many men in high-pressure environments struggle with mental health issues, but feel unable to express their struggles due to fear of judgment or stigma.
A Kenya National Bureau of Statistics (KNBS) report released in November 2023 showed that more Kenyan men than women have mental disorders.
The Consequences of Staying Silent
The impact of men not addressing their mental wellness is profound. According to a 2022 article in the Daily Nation, more than 60% of Kenyan men who suffer from mental health issues are unaware of it, though the actual numbers are likely higher due to underreporting. Men often cope through harmful behaviours such as escapism (turning to alcohol or substance abuse), withdrawal (cancelling plans and isolating themselves), and externalization (exhibiting irritability or engaging in reckless behaviour).
Perhaps the most alarming consequence of untreated mental health issues is the high rate of male suicide. Men from lower socioeconomic backgrounds and those under 50 are particularly at risk. The complexity of suicide means it’s rarely due to a single factor but rather a combination of personal, community, and societal issues.
Men’s mental wellness isn’t just an issue for men to address—it’s a societal concern.
Supporting Men’s Mental Wellness: Where to Start
So, what can we do to support men’s mental health? Here are three key approaches:
- Start with a Conversation: Many men struggling with mental health issues feel isolated and disconnected. Creating a safe space where men feel encouraged to talk about their feelings is crucial. If you notice a friend or family member has been distant or cancelling plans, reach out. A simple text, call, or a WhatsApp can make a significant difference.
- Encourage Small Lifestyle Changes: Small adjustments in daily routines can have a positive impact on mental health. Reducing alcohol consumption, increasing physical activity, and staying socially active are all effective strategies. Physical exercise, in particular, releases endorphins that boost mood and combat feelings of depression and anxiety.
- Recognize Men’s Mental Health as a Societal Issue: Men’s mental wellness isn’t just an issue for men to address—it’s a societal concern. We must challenge harmful gender stereotypes, promote resources that support men, and develop programs tailored to the unique challenges they face.
Building a Supportive Environment for Men’s Mental Health
Breaking the silence around men’s mental health requires collective effort. It starts by fostering open conversations, encouraging healthy lifestyle changes, and recognizing the broader societal implications, we can create an environment where men feel safe to express their vulnerabilities. Together, we can help men navigate their mental wellness journeys and reduce the stigma that has long kept them silent.
